Another one!!! You must be kidding me!!!!!!!!!

It’s been almost 2 years since Anika came into our lives. But it still feels like just yesterday when I bought my little bundle of joy back home. Each day as she grew and became stronger and lovelier, I grew too as a mother. Time stands still when I’m with her. Even on days when she’s being difficult and I'm ready to throw in the towel, one sweet little smile from her and my heart melts and all the trials and tribulations of that day are a thing of the past. Like any proud mother, I love showing off my little girl to family and friends. And while they gush over Anika and praise my parenting skills, the one question I can't seem to escape is "When are you planning for the next one?" Anytime I hear this the first thing that pops into my head is "you have got to be kidding me man!"

Sometimes I do think, if I can be the same mommy to my next child or if it’s my laziness that I can’t take care of two kids. I’m not sure what it is. All I know is Anika is extremely precious to me and I feel guilty to share all my time with the new one.

A million questions running in my head.  That’s when I decided to ask Anika.

Few days back, I did ask her if she wants another baby at home. She didn't hesitate to even think. I was shocked to hear her quick response. She immediately says, “No”. I then started thinking,” Did she know what I was asking her or was it a casual “No” that she says all the time almost for everything.

Children are the biggest gift which I truly treasure. Ask me how difficult it to look after these super naughty kids.

They are gifted with extreme energy. They are never tired. They would love to try every single piece of thing around them. They make sure to keep you on your toes all day long. Between such a busy day, giving equal time to another one is going to be a tough task. So, here’s a funny conversation Anika and I had few days back. After this I thought,” Another one!!! No way”

Mama: Ani baby, “Shall I go to office for few days? Will you be with your ammamma (Her grandma)?”

Anika : GRRRRRRRRRRRR!!!!! Noooooooooo (a big shout)

Mama: Ok, Shall I go out with my friends? Will you be alone at home?

Anika : Another angry reply,”Nooooo”

Mama: Do you want another baby? Can papa and I give your toys to him/her?

Anika : Mama… No!!!!!!!!! (Starts crying).

Well, after those tears rolling down. I definitely noticed how possessive she is about her parents. Neither was she willing to share her toys nor was she ready to let her mommy stay away from her. Children can sense every single thing at home. They know when their parents are happy, when they are sad.

I still remember the day when she started walking. I did call a dozen of them to tell. Every single minute with her is soo unforgettable. They learn few words and we are thrilled. Their first day at school, I’m sure most mommies cry along with them. Even if we have to leave them for few minutes somewhere, we make sure they are always in safe hands. May be that’s why children develop such a strong bond with parents which will last for a life time.

Then, I thought over few positives things of having another child even though Anika is not Okay. Let`s consider these things:

•  Anika will have a companion to play. She can share all her toys, books etc.
•  Anika will turn more responsible. Less pampering and more responsibility.
•  I`m sure our home will be the noisiest having two super kids around.
•  It’s going to be a perfect family.

I was almost ready to make up my mind. Suddenly, thought of few negative heart breaking things too. Here it is:

•  Life is little difficult now. After two kids life becomes almost impossible to survive.
•  If the first one is all okay, then the second one will 100% not be okay.
•  First one like Horlicks but the second one likes Complan.
•  I can hear Anika complaining that her sister/brother broke her toy which was her       favourite.
•  The most important, Since Ashwin has immense patience it’s not going to be really tough for him. But, my condition is going to be crazy. Let’s take the other way, I will have to bear with 3 children including my dear husband.

    After considering all these facts and discussing with Anika and Ashwin. We thought we are okay with Anika as of now. Anika`s firm decision of not wanting a brother or sister helped us to an extent.

It doesn't really matter if you have just a child or many children at home. The love we parents have towards our children will always remain the same. How can we all forget, “Children are the biggest driving force for all parents”.

Mama… I am still Daddy`s Girl!!!!!!!!!

Weekends are those crazy two days in our lives when we want to do everything under the sun.

These days my weekends are made up of two super busy days when I'm running around trying to get a whole bunch of things done all at once. Gone are the days when my weekend used to be about lazing around an extra guilt free hour in the bed, without worrying about how messy the house was or if I had enough in my refrigerator to cook up a decent meal for two. No such luck these days. As if I wasn't already busy enough with my little one, I have a husband who depends on me equally, if not more. This is when every woman, regardless of class, race, nationality transforms herself into a super mommy.

Recently, I decided to take a day off from my mommy job. I let my husband in charge of home affairs and our little girl. The day started very well, or so I thought. But once again, my little one proved me wrong. After a nice restful sleep, Anika woke up to see both her parents around and I could see how thrilled she was the way her sweet little face broke into a big smile.

This was the deal, I gave clear instructions to my hubby before I vanished. I let my hubby take over things and made sure things were pretty fine. Then came the challenge. All seemed well till my little one decided the day was going just too peaceful for her liking. She thought, “poor daddy doesn't know anything so let’s show him what kids are all about!!!!”.  

My dear hubby was just relaxing on the couch and watching his favorite TV channels that’s when he heard a biiiiig scream. He had to leave his TV and run into the room. All the protective instincts of a father made him blindly rush into the room only to find that Anika had dropped all the toys from her toy bag.  With his worst fears quelled, he started picking up the toys and dutifully put them back into the bag. But, this was not just the end, he had another thing coming. My little girl had turned the drawing room upside down and was throwing stuff around. Just as soon as he started clearing the drawing room, Anika starts to whimper. Finally, at this point my darling husband decided, “Sometimes little mess is better especially when it buys some peace and quiet times”.  And with that, he went back to watching his TV while keeping a watchful eye on his little girl.

Btw, Who says,"being daddy is easy!!!!!"...

By this time, Anika darling has understood, “My papa is such a learner in looking after me. I think now I want Mama. Haahhh, Where did Mama go?”.

She starts asking my hubby,”Papa mama ekka???(Which means papa where is mama).

Papa says, “Mama will come back, she just went to the doctor to get an injection” (which was the craziest lie ever).

Anika as usual starts screaming. Finally she decides there is no point screaming. Let me discover few things at home. She thinks she won’t get such a wonderful chance again. Let me try my hands on when he is worried more about his cricket match.

She goes straight into our bedroom. Opens the draw near the dressing area. Finally takes the powder out from the box and spills it all over. There comes papa standing in shock.

And finally when I open the door, I see the drawing room full of things. I see Anika`s favorite animals here and there. I was about to keep my feet on that tiny giraffe and fall down. And when I go into the room I could see powder splatter all over the place. And Anika says, “Mama Mama Mama !!!!!!!!!!!”. I didn't utter a word but I could sense that she was a troublesome child today for my dear husband.

The loveliest fact about we parents is that no matter how naughty our kids are we love them more and more as each day passes by. Ashwin never told me anything about Anika. In fact, Anika wanted to be with him even when I returned home. She did miss me but she didn't mind being with her papa. I could hear them giggling on the bed. Well, that was him putting her to sleep. I could hear them laugh, talk and tickle.

Finally, my little girl hugs her papa and kisses him on his cheek. I stood there silently watching all these and thanking god for giving me these two amazing people in my life. And then, her papa starts singing her favorite lullaby as she slowly falls into her glittery world of sleep. 

This is when I realized no matter how hard you try to be your daughter`s favorite she will always remain a daddy`s girl.

Children are our biggest strength. No matter how old they get, they always remain, “Kids” to us.  And when you know it’s a Daddy`s day out with their kids, how can we forget this famous saying, “As long as you know men are like children, you know everything! – Coco Chanel”.

SOMETIMES I CALL IT NIGHTMARES!!!!!!!!!! (While sleeping with your little one)

You go to any part of the world children always love to sleep with their parents. We as mothers feel very insecure to let our kids sleep away from us until they are a little old.

The day I brought her home from the hospital everyone at home was so thrilled including me of course. Then it was night. And with the darkness came the much needed deep rested sleep. I watched as one by one everyone around me slipped into the crazy and colorful world of dreams. I was with my little one playing and doing all possible things so that she sleeps. Well, I thought it’s just a night. 

Actually, “No” it went on for few months.

Slowly, things changed as she grew older. Nights are not always about changing diapers or feeding. It can be great fun too.

I am a sleep lover. That’s when I realized I need a new bed. And the first thought that comes to mind when I think of sleep is a nice king sized bed with a high mattress, the bouncy types.

 It was a tiring day as usual for me and a boring day for Anika. Finally there came our sleeping time. Anika and I sleep together. I couldn't wait to jump on to our new bed and feel like a Queen. After all these amazing glittery feelings around me, still remembered that I must feed her at night when she asks for.

After my lorry and lullaby, my little girl goes to sleep. Maybe it was a new bouncy bed or it was my tiring day I fell asleep in seconds. Suddenly I realized I was moved to the corner of the bed while Anika takes over. She almost pushed me to the edge of the bed. I put her back to her place and went back to my colorful dreams. Just after a while, I woke up to feed her as usual I saw she was not in her place. For a minute, I thought I was dreaming.  Now, opened my eyes wide and searched for her. Wanted to know where she rolled herself.

“Aaaaaaahhh”, there she is!!!

She was exactly opposite to where I was sleeping. One small turn could have rolled down.  Immediately, put her back on her place. Finally after feed, I thought this is the perfect time to sleep. I close my eyes and still feeling very great to sleep on my new bed. Few hours and I was awake again.

Now, I got a nice whack from her on my back. I realized pitying myself, ”Oh Dear!!! 

This happens”. Now, put her back to sleep kissed on her forehead and still felt great. I felt so good maybe because of those little eyes which is sleeping so well thinking of so many beautiful things. May be she was thinking how to climb on that chair or how to open the fridge door. I could see all the naughtiness when she was asleep.

Mothers are gifted with so much patience and tons of love for their children. They test your patience to an extent. When they say, “sorry” you forget what happened last minute. They cry but it`s sad that we cry along with them. I guess each day with your child makes you a happier person. Every day spent is unforgettable. You want to write somewhere, call someone and tell them what your kids did today or even love them more for that.  The strongest fact still remains the same which says, “Children are the biggest gift from God”. And we as parents treasure this every minute in our lives.

As they say,”When a child is born so is the mother”. 

My Sweet Baby Girl !!!!!!!!!!!!!

Mamma Mamma....

I just heard a bigggggg scream from a very sweet tone. I thought something happened. I didn't bother if my blender would splatter all over my kitchen. I had to rush into Anika`s room.

I asked her,"What happened Baby?"

She says," Mamma Duppada missi...."( I could see a gloomy face there. She meant her duppata is missing).

Well, I didn't want to smile or grin there. I just said

"No Baby, It must be somewhere here". I`d ask her to go around looking for it.

Her anxious voice finally said,"Duppada Duppada Duppada" !!! and she comes running to me. It was as if she was seeing me after years (its a million dollar feeling).  Her happiness, her little discovery or her fascination that she could find it all by herself. This is absolutely priceless.

Once she got her Duppada(what she calls it), she is back with something else trying to see what else she can discover in her room or elsewhere. Little things can make such a huge difference in our lives. Their little talk, that funny walk or even their cute words which can never be forgotten and can only bring a huge smile on our face. 

It doesn`t really matter if you are tired returning back from work or if you had a bad meeting in the office. All that matters is to see your little one when you get back home. That would bring back all your lost energy. You would still tell them, "Baby, Lets play this game". 

I got my little bundle of happiness almost 2yrs back. I still feel it like a dream. Sometimes, I even ask myself if this is all real.